Relationship Coaching
I'm here to empower you in getting the deep connections you crave.
Do You Want To Enhance The Quality Of Your Relationships?
Have past hurts held you back from enjoying the connections you crave?
Do you want to improve your communication skills and get in touch with your authentic voice?
Are you struggling with feelings of loneliness and wishing you had more fulfilling relationships?
Maybe you’re single and having trouble navigating the dating world—you can’t seem to attract what you want or find anyone that matches your energy. Or perhaps you’re married or in a long-term relationship, but you and your partner have hit a rough patch lately and aren’t connecting like you used to. Or maybe you’re divorced and trying to find love again, but past disappointment has made it hard to believe you’ll ever find your person. As a result, you might be thinking of working with a dating and relationship coach.
Many Of Us Have Been Conditioned To Believe We Need Other People To Complete Us
Our society is full of shaming and judgmental messages about love. As a result, many of us grow up believing we are unworthy and unlovable. We may have had parents who taught us that we only deserve love if we follow certain rules and adhere to certain values. We may have been taught that our authentic selves weren’t worthy of acceptance, leading us to hide our true identity.
What’s more, there is a popular idea in our culture that we need a companion to complete us. The truth, however, is that we need to love ourselves before we can begin loving in an authentic way. Once we love ourselves, we can better understand our value and treat others the way that we want to be treated. If we’re not connected to our true selves, we can’t know how to be loved in the first place. We will settle for the crumbs instead of feasting on the bountiful meal we deserve.
To understand our true worth, sometimes we need the support and insight of a compassionate professional. On our own, we tend to default to the same thinking patterns over and over. It’s easier for us to lose perspective and forget our gifts and good qualities. In relationship coaching, we have a chance to reconnect with our innermost selves and understand that we are valuable, lovable, and worthy of acceptance.
Coaching Can Help You Build Satisfying, Long-Lasting Relationships
Many people rush into relationships and try to force connections even when they’re not ready. In many ways this is a symptom of the social media age—we see people enjoying happy relationships and getting engaged all over our timelines, and we worry that we’re missing out. We worry that we’ll never find our person, so we jump into the first connection that presents itself.
Building healthy relationships, however, requires being patient with ourselves and exploring who we are and what we want before launching into new commitments. This is often hard work, but when you have a supportive and compassionate coach who can walk alongside you and teach you new relationship skills, the process of attracting what you want becomes much easier.
I provide coaching for people dealing with friendship issues, singles navigating the dating scene, partners in marriages or long-term relationships, and even divorcees looking for a fresh start. No matter what your relationship struggles are, I would be honored to help you gain the skills and self-knowledge to create healthy and long-lasting connections. My approach is goal-oriented, skills-based, and focused on practical steps you can take to create the future you’ve always dreamed of.
You Might Be Struggling To Figure Out What You Want In Your Relationships
Oftentimes, a lack of satisfying relationships stems from not really knowing what your wants and needs are. Perhaps you find yourself going out of your way to please others and leave your own emotional needs on the backburner. You might be so used to operating this way that you’re not even sure what your needs are.
Additionally, perhaps you’re waiting for the right person to come along and complete you, because that’s what you’ve been taught will happen when you find your person. Yet the more you depend on other people to fulfill your emotional needs, the emptier and more unsatisfied you feel.
If this experience resonates with you, I encourage you to pursue relationship coaching with me. With my help and support, I’m confident that I can help you get in touch with your authentic self and discover your true needs and desire to connect. By forming a better relationship with yourself, you can experience healthier connections with friends, loved ones, and significant others.
What To Expect In Relationship Coaching Sessions
Coaching looks different from client to client and varies depending on what your relationship challenges are. Although many people come alone to my coaching sessions, you are welcome to bring your partner along if you are looking to strengthen your marriage or romantic relationship. I am very flexible to your needs and will accommodate you in whatever way possible.
I draw from a wide range of approaches in my coaching sessions, including:
Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy—All of our personalities are made up of many different parts or sub-personalities. Part of you may be overly defensive from being hurt in past relationships, while another part may struggle to believe that you’re worthy of love and acceptance. IFS can help you get to know all of your parts so that you understand how you show up in your relationships. You can be more in tune with your emotions and respond more thoughtfully and mindfully to relationship difficulties.
Motivational Interviewing—Most of the answers to your relationship challenges are already within you, and the goal of Motivational Interviewing is to help you get in touch with those answers so that you can lead a more authentic and connected life.
Ikigai Therapy—In Japanese, “Ikigai” essentially means the purpose of your life. Helping you connect with your purpose in life enables you to better understand your needs and values in relationships.
By drawing from a combination of these approaches and equipping you with a bevy of new relationship skills, I believe that I can help you form deeper and more meaningful connections. Most importantly, I want to help you learn to love yourself—because when you do, it becomes so much easier to work toward relationships that make you feel loved.
You May Have Some Questions About Relationship Coaching…
What if coaching costs too much?
Your finances are important, but so are your relationships. When your relationships are sound, every area of your life generally follows suit. If you’re worried about the cost of coaching, I invite you to consider: what is the cost of not making a move toward change? And what do you have to lose by investing in your emotional and relational wellbeing? By pursuing coaching, you’re giving yourself a chance to attract what you want and create the life you’ve always desired.
Will coaching actually make a difference in my relationships?
There are no guarantees in life, but as a certified relationship coach, I have been able to help many, many people create better marriages, relationships, and friendships through my program. As long as you’re committed to learning new communication skills and discovering more about your needs, goals, and values, I believe that coaching can make a significant difference in your relationships.
What if my partner doesn’t want to attend sessions with me?
This is a common concern for people looking to strengthen their marriage or romantic relationship. If your partner or spouse is unwilling to come with you, I encourage you to still pursue coaching for yourself. Over time, as you begin to shift your relationship dynamic and change how you communicate with your partner, they may be more motivated to try coaching for themselves.
You Are Worthy Of Love And Acceptance
Despite the messages that you may have internalized, you deserve to be loved, valued, and accepted for who you are. Coaching is a chance to increase your self-worth and self-love and use that as a springboard for healthier relationships. To get started, you can book your discovery call and connect with me today!
